【合帶工作坊別對夥伴做的事】-我出過的包與踩過的雷
(English Version Below)

*註-這裡的合帶指的是一起主帶的關係,非主帶與助教型式。

和晏瑜以雙主帶的方式完成了一整天的應用即興劇工作坊,好過癮!!我們丟接得很順利、互相補位、吐槽幽默,我們和學員們這天都玩得很開心也樂於嘗試冒險,有更多的能量與方法可以帶回團隊中。

如果多年前問我「喜歡自己一個人主帶工作坊還是和人合帶?」

我一定會回答一個人主帶,有時夥伴可能比成員更讓人心累,而,我也曾經成為讓人心累的夥伴。

{別對夥伴做的事–我出過的包與踩過的雷}

1、遲到

*自己遲到
我曾經因為睡過頭沒趕上去金門的飛機,讓夥伴獨自撐著開場。

雖然後來在1個小時趕到,也向夥伴、成員、主辦方誠懇道歉,並主動提及扣除該時數的講師費,兩天課程順利進行,但每想起這件事還是心有餘悸。

*夥伴遲到加失聯
曾有夥伴和我約好在開課前20分鐘直接上課場地見,時間到了他都沒出現也連絡不上,後來他在上課前1分鐘出現了,他說他沒看訊息。當天算是準時上課,但那19分鐘對我像漫長的地獄。

2、組成小團體

*和另一位夥伴組成小團體
我曾和A、B夥伴共三人合帶一個工作坊,當天狀況很多,因為A和我比較熟,很多當下的調整是A和我討論後就直接行動,也沒告知B夥伴,讓B夥伴當天一直處在什麼都不知道的慌張狀態。

*和成員組成小團體
我曾遇過該活動主帶在講解活動,但一直有嬉鬧聲影響到其他人聽說明,原來是另一名主帶和較熟的成員在打鬧。

3、常在話中間打斷夥伴

主帶A:「先圍成一個圓,好,接下來要做指..」
主帶B:「XXX站前面一點、###你站後面一點。」

主帶A:「現在都分好小組了,會有5分鐘的時間聊..」
主帶B:「喂! 這組跟這組分開一點。」

··· x N次發生

我是這N個案例的主帶A (菸~

4、脫稿演出

課前我們會和夥伴討論主帶活動與時段分配。

*我曾經在上一個活動已經延遲了20分鐘以上,還堅持做某個我覺得重要的活動,壓縮了夥伴要帶領的反思時間,預計50分鐘的反思變成15分鐘,很匆促也沒能好好聽到每個人的聲音。

*我也遇過我主帶的活動,夥伴忘記了,以為是他主帶,也一起引導Coach,因為我們兩人解釋的方式和在乎的重點不同,我要引導學員時就需要再費力些。

5、都丟包給對方

多年前,我曾和一位心理師去帶領國小學生諮商中心主辦的玩戲劇工作坊,來的孩子大都是常接受學諮中心輔導的孩子。

當時我一直找不到方法帶領這群孩子,最後大部份的活動都是這位心理師主帶,包含課程結束後和家長的對談我也默默推給他。

真的是金母湯!

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上列的這些狀況現在看來有些是有點荒謬,但在當下都是很受苦的。

我沒放過這些苦,每一個我都在事後和夥伴聊開,有些是對夥伴道歉也道謝,有些是對夥伴表達我的需求與我在乎什麼。

感謝我們都願意學習與調整,和彼此靠近。

當然也有遇到在講開後發現我們可以一起做很多事,但不適合一起合帶工作坊的夥伴。

這也是一種靠近。

你在合帶工作坊時發生過什麼糗事或讓你抓狂的事嗎?


這次分享了很多不要做的,那合帶時可以注意什麼呢?

to be continued…

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【5 Don’ts When Co-leading a workshop with your partner】-How I Learned from Mistakes

Yenyu and I co-facilitated a full-day applied improv workshop, it was so much fun! We gave and took smoothly, complemented each other, and were humorous. The participants and us had a great time that day. We were all eager to experiment and take risks, bringing back more energy and techniques to their teams.

If you had asked me many years ago, “Do you prefer facilitating workshops on your own or co-facilitating with others?”

I would have definitely answered, “On my own.” Sometimes, partners can be more exhausting than participants, and I have also been a partner who drained others at times.

“5 Don’ts When Co-leading a workshop with your partner”

1、Being Late

*Being Late Myself: There was a time when I overslept and missed my flight to Kinmen, leaving my partner to start the event alone.

Although I managed to arrive within an hour and sincerely apologised to my partner, team members, and the organisers, offering to deduct my fee, the memory of that incident still haunts me.

*Partner’s Tardiness and Unreachable
There was a time when a partner and I had arranged to meet at the course venue 20 minutes before the start.
When the time came, he didn’t show up and couldn’t be reached. Eventually, he appeared just 1 minute before the class was set to begin, claiming that he hadn’t seen the messages.
While we technically started the class on time, those 19 minutes felt like an eternity to me.

2、Forming Small Groups

*Forming a Small Group with Another Partner
I once co-facilitated a workshop with two other partners, A and B.
On that day, there were many unexpected situations, and because A and I were more familiar with each other, we made a lot of on-the-spot adjustments without discussing with B. We didn’t inform B about these changes, which left B in a state of confusion throughout the day, not knowing what was happening.

*Forming Small Groups with Team Members

The activity facilitator was explaining an activity, but there were constant playful noises that were distracting others from hearing the instructions. It turned out that another facilitator and a team member were playfully interacting.

3、Frequently Interrupting Your Partner During Conversations

Facilitator A: “Let’s form a circle first, okay? Next, we need to…”

Facilitator B: “XXX, move a little forward, and ###, stand a bit behind.”

Facilitator A: “Now that we’ve divided into groups, you’ll have 5 minutes to discuss…”

Facilitator B: “Hey! This group, please separate a bit from that group.”


…x N times

I was Facilitator A in these cases.

4、Impromptu Performances

Before the workshop, we would discuss the time frame and how we share facilitation of the activities.

*Once we were already running more than 20 minutes behind schedule, but I insisted on conducting an activity that I deemed important.
This compressed the reflection time my partner led, reducing the expected 50-minute to just 15 minutes.
It felt rushed, and everyone’s input couldn’t be heard completely.

*During an activity that I was supposed to lead, my partner forgot and thought it was her turn to lead.
We ended up co-facilitating the activity, including coaching, but because our explanations and focus points were different, it required extra effort when I guided the participants.

5、Avoiding responsibility

Many years ago, I co-facilitated a drama workshop with a psychologist at a counselling center for elementary school students. Most of the children who attended were regular clients of the counselling center.

At that time, I struggled to find effective ways to lead this group of children, and in the end, the psychologist took the lead in most of the activities. I even delegated the post-session discussions with parents to him.

I’m so sorry.

These situations may seem somewhat absurd, but at the time, they were quite challenging and made me suffer.

I haven’t let go of these challenges; I’ve discussed each of them with my partners afterward. I was apologising and expressing gratitude to my partners in some circumstances, while others were about communicating my needs and what mattered to me.

I appreciate that we were all willing to learn and adjust, getting closer to each other.

Also, I encountered a partner and we realised that we could do many things together but we don’t fit to co-facilitate workshops.

This is a form of getting closer, too.

Have you ever experienced any embarrassing or frustrating situations while co-facilitating workshops?

I talked about 5 Don’ts this time, maybe I can share what to pay attention to when co-facilitating workshops later.

勇氣即興

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